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Research
Paper on Adultery
by John Schoenheit (formerly TWI Research Dept.)
(It is said that the circulation
of this research paper led to John Schoenheit and several others
who assisted him being fired from the staff of TWI in the late
80's. It is further said that anyone found reading this paper
would never be allowed to rise in leadership in TWI beyond that
of a "twig" fellowship coordinator.)
Foreword:
In 1982 or 1983 Rev. Ralph
Dubofsky and Rev. Vince Finegan came to me. Dr. Wierwille had
asked them to do some work on the subject of adultery. Ralph and
Vince wanted to know what I knew and if it would help them. I
was genuinely surprised at how little I knew about the subject
from the Word of God. This paper is the result of those years
of study.
Actually, I had done a little study before Ralph and Vince came
to me. During my last year in residence in the Way Corps, I was
alone in my bedroom when a girl whom I had always thought was
attractive came in looking for Diane. She thought that Diane was
there and I was gone, and she came in wearing an "exciting" black
nightie. I was surprised at how strong my desire was to make love
to her. As I struggled to control my mind, I realized that I did
not have a scripture to grab onto for support. I literally was
not completely positive as to what the Word of God had to say
on the subject. I began studying the Word of God, and I got as
far as the Mosaic Law that proscribes the death penalty for adultery.
I believed that if God commanded the death penalty for adultery
in the Old Testament, His will on the subject could not have changed
with the change of administration. If anything, the marriage relationship
is even more important now, during the age of Grace, because it
portrays the Great Mystery.
The reason for this paper is that I have discovered that not everybody
believes that adultery is wrong. This paper is an attempt to clearly
set forth the Biblical perspective of adultery and fornication
so that every believer has a chance to see the will of God on
the subject. This paper is not an attempt to "legislate morality"
or to make rules and regulations that will improve the old man.
It is an attempt to help every believer come to "an accurate knowledge
of the Truth" (I Timothy 2:4). When a person knows where God stands
on the subject, he can decide for himself where he wants to stand--on
God's Word or off it.
Please make sure that
you read the Question & Answer
format Appendices at the end of this paper.
Many Christians are confused
about adultery and fornication. Some are not sure what the terms
mean. Others think they know what the terms mean, but are not
sure of God’s position on the subject. This paper is an attempt
to clarify what the terms mean in modern English, what the terms
meant as they were used in the Word of God, and God’s will concerning
adultery and fornication.
Adultery is defined by
the American Heritage Dictionary of the English Language
as "voluntary sexual intercourse between a married
person and a partner other than the lawful husband or wife." Although
that definition is not the biblical one, this paper will show
that in the modern sense of the word, as well as the biblical
sense, is a sin. The biblical definition of adultery is the breach
of a marriage contract, and occurred when a man (married or unmarried)
had sexual intercourse with a woman who was either betrothed or
married. This definition will be developed from the scriptures
in the course of this paper. The word "adultery" was also used
by God to show Israel’s spiritual unfaithfulness to him. Thus
there is both a physical side and a spiritual side to adultery.
The thesis of this paper will basically deal with the physical
side of adultery, i.e., actual sexual intercourse between a man
and a woman.
This paper will also deal
with fornication. The definition of the word "fornication" as
it is used in modern English has stayed very close to the biblical
definition. Webster’s New Collegiate Dictionary
gives the following definition for "fornication":
"human sexual intercourse
other than between a man and his wife: sexual intercourse between
a spouse and an unmarried person: sexual intercourse between unmarried
people."
Thus the definitions of
"fornication" and "adultery" do overlap to some
extent. The definition of fornication will also be developed in
this paper.
This paper is in two parts
with extensive appendixes. Part One deals with adultery and Part
Two deals with fornication. In each part, the subject - adultery
or fornication, has been developed in the order of biblical administrations.
Thus adultery is considered first in the Patriarchal Administration,
then in the Law Administration, followed by the Christ, Grace,
and Appearing Administrations. Fornication is dealt with in the
same manner.
Adultery
Every time the issue of
adultery comes up in the Patriarchal Administration it is considered
wrong and a sin. In Genesis 35:22, Reuben, Jacob’s oldest son,
had intercourse with Jacob’s concubine.
Genesis 35:22
And it came to pass, when
Israel dwelt in that land, that Reuben went and lay with Bilhah
his father’s concubine: and Israel heard it. Now the sons
of Jacob were twelve.
There is nothing in the
immediate context to indicate that Reuben was in any way punished
for his adultery. But years later, on his deathbed, it was that
event in Reuben’s life that Jacob remembered and spoke specifically
about.
Genesis 49:3-4
Reuben, thou art my
firstborn, my might, and the beginning of my strength, the excellency
of dignity, and the excellency of power:
Unstable as water, thou
shalt not excel; because thou wentest up to thy father’s bed;
thou defiled thou it: he went up to my couch.
Reuben’s adultery was
wrong. Reuben’s action "defiled" his father’s bed. The word "because"
in the phrase, "Thou shalt not excel; because thou wentest
up to thy father’s bed..." points to a cause and effect relationship.
Reuben’s adultery somehow caused him not to excel. So Reuben defiled
his father’s bed, and he would not excel because of his action.
The incident of Reuben is thus similar to that of David. Nathan
used the word "because" when he spoke to David:
II Samuel 12:10
Now therefore the sword
shall never depart from thine house; because thou hast despised
me, and has taken the wife of Uriah the Hittite to be thy wife.
The "because" in this
verse again points to a cause-and-effect relationship. David’s
treating God with contempt and "taking the wife of Uriah to be
thy wife" was a cause, and the effect was "the sword shall never
depart from thine house."
The book of Job, which
is another record during the Patriarchal Administration, also
mentions adultery:
Job 24:15
The eyes also of the adulterer
waiteth for the twilight, saying, No eye shall see me: and disguiseth
his face.
The context of this verse
is people who do evil, and includes "those that rebel against
the light" (verse 13), "the murderer" (verse 14), and burglars
(verse 16). Adultery is placed in the same context with murderers
and burglars. And the verse itself says that the adulterer tries
to hide his action, clearly showing the evil nature of adultery.
Job mentions more about adultery in chapter 31.
Job 31:9-12
If mine heart have been
deceived by a woman, or if I have laid wait at my neighbor’s
door;
Then let my wife
grind unto another, and let others bow down upon her.
For this is an
heinous crime; yea, it is an iniquity to be punished
by the judges.
For it is a fire
that consumeth to destruction, and would root out all mine
increase.
Job’s attitude toward
adultery is clearly stated. It is a "heinous crime" and an "iniquity
to be punished by the judges."
There are three other
incidents in the Patriarchal Administration from which to learn
about adultery. Abraham and Isaac both tried to pass off their
wives as their sisters. Abraham did it twice, and Isaac once.
In all three cases, the pagan kings who took their wives knew
that adultery was wrong, and returned the wives untouched when
they found out that the women were already married. These three
accounts are covered in detail in Appendix B.
There is one other record
of adultery, actually an attempt at adultery, that must be considered.
Joseph was one of the twelve sons of Jacob, and he was sold into
slavery and taken to Egypt when he was still a teenager. Joseph
was purchased by Potiphar, an "officer of Pharaoh, captain of
the guard" (Genesis 39:1). After a time Joseph had risen in position
until he was the overseer of Potiphar’s house. At that time, Potiphar’s
wife desired Joseph and wanted to have sexual intercourse with
him. She was bold and up front with her desire, and said to Joseph,
"Lie with me" (Genesis 39:7). Joseph refused. He called the intended
adultery "great wickedness" and a "sin against God." Joseph, like
Job, understood the nature of adultery. It is a great wickedness
and a sin against God.
The information on adultery
that can be gleaned from the Patriarchal Administration is clear.
Adultery was wrong. It defiled, it made one guilty
(Appendix B), it was great wickedness, a heinous crime,
an iniquity to be punished by the judges, and a sin
against God. There is nothing in the Word of God to indicate
that adultery was in any way acceptable before God in the Patriarchal
Administration.
After the Patriarchal
Administration came the Law Administration. As in the Patriarchal
Administration, there is nothing in the Law Administration to
indicate that adultery was in any way acceptable behavior. The
Mosaic Law forbids adultery. The seventh commandment is: "Thou
shalt not commit adultery". That the usage of "adultery" in
the seventh commandment is physical, i.e., a man with a woman,
was made clear by Jesus Christ when he quoted the seventh commandment
as is recorded in Matthew:
Matthew 5:27-28
Ye have heard that it
was said by them of old time, Thou shalt not commit adultery:
But I say unto you, That
whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed
adultery with her already in his heart.
It is obvious from Jesus
Christ’s usage of the seventh commandment that he knew it referred
to illicit sexual relations between men and women. A study of
Old Testament scriptures shows that for a man, married or unmarried,
to have sexual intercourse with a woman who was either betrothed
or married was a capital crime, carrying the death penalty.
Leviticus 20:10
And the man that committeth
adultery with another man’s wife, even he that committeth
adultery with his neighbor’s wife, the adulterer and the adulteress
shall surely be put to death.
Deuteronomy 22:22-27
If a man be found lying
with a woman married to an husband, then they shall both of them
die, both the man that lay with the woman, and the woman:
so shalt thou put away evil from Israel.
If a damsel that is
a virgin be betrothed unto an husband, and a man find her
in the city, and lie with her;
Then ye shall bring them
both out unto the gate of that city, and ye shall stone them with
stones that they die; the damsel, because she cried not, being
in the city; and the man, because he hath humbled his neighbor’s
wife: so thou shalt put away evil from among you.
But if a man find a betrothed
damsel in the field, and the man force her, and lie with her;
then the man only that lay with her shall die:
But unto the damsel thou
shalt do nothing; there is in the damsel no sin worthy
of death: for as when a man riseth against his neighbor, and slayeth
him, even so is this matter:
For he found her in the
field, and the betrothed damsel cried, and there was
none to save her.
There was one exception
to the law as recorded above, and that was when a man had intercourse
with a betrothed woman who was also a slave. However, even then,
there were consequences for their having had intercourse, and
the act is called a "sin."
Leviticus 19:20-22
And whosoever lieth carnally
with a woman, that is a bondsmaid, betrothed to an husband,
and not at all redeemed, nor freedom given her; she shall be scourged;
they shall not be put to death, because she was not free.
And he shall bring his
trespass offering unto the Lord, unto the door of the tabernacle
of the congregation, even a ram for a trespass offering.
And the priest shall make
an atonement for him with the ram of the trespass offering before
the Lord for his sin which he hath done: and the sin which he
hath done shall be forgiven him.
In contrast to these clear
verses, there is not one verse or record showing that adultery
was acceptable to God in the Law Administration.
A number of clear verses
during the Christ Administration, which followed the Law Administration,
show beyond a shadow of a doubt that adultery was a sin. Jesus
Christ clearly addressed the issue on several occasions. He quoted
the seventh commandment, "Thou shalt not commit adultery," on
two different occasions. One was during his teaching from a mountain
in Galilee during the summer of 27 A.D. (which has been quoted
earlier).
Matthew 5:27-28
Ye have heard that it
was said by them of old time, Thou shalt not commit adultery:
But I say unto you, That
whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed
adultery with her already in his heart.
Jesus quoted the seventh
commandment a second time while he was in Perea, just prior to
his trip to Jerusalem when he was crucified and slain. At that
time, a rich young ruler came to Jesus and asked him what he should
do to have eternal life.
Matthew 19:16-18
And, behold, one came
and said unto him, Good Master, what good thing shall I do, that
I may have eternal life?
And he said unto him,
Why callest thou me good? there is none good but one, that
is, God: but if thou wilt enter into life, keep the commandments.
He saith unto him, Which?
Jesus said, Thou shalt do no murder, Thou shalt not commit adultery,
Thou shalt not steal, Thou shalt not bear false witness.
It is clear from these
two separate records in Matthew that Jesus Christ knew and taught
that adultery was wrong.
John, chapter 8 is the
record of the scribes and Pharisees who brought a woman to Christ
"taken in adultery, in the very act."
John 8:4-6
They say unto him, Master,
this woman was taken in adultery, in the very act.
Now Moses in the law commanded
us, that such should be stoned: but what sayest thou?
This they said, tempting
him, that they might have to accuse him. But Jesus stooped down,
and with his finger wrote on the ground, as though he
heard them not.
The scribes and Pharisees
said to Jesus, "Moses in the law commanded us that such should
be stoned: but what sayest thou?" (verse 5). They said this to
Jesus so they would have something to use as an accusation against
him (verse 6). Moses did say that a woman caught in adultery should
be killed.
Deuteronomy 22:22
If a man be found lying
with a woman married to a husband, then they shall both of them
die, both the man that lay with the woman, and the woman:
so shalt thou put away evil from Israel.
Nevertheless, at that
time, the Romans had made it illegal for the Judeans to put any
person to death. This is why the Pharisees had to take Jesus Christ
to the Roman authorities when they wanted him killed.
John 18:31
Then said Pilate unto
them, Take ye him, and judge him according to your law. The Jews
therefore said unto him, It is not lawful for us to put any man
to death.
The trap of the Pharisees
who brought the adulterous woman to Jesus Christ was very clever.
If Jesus had said to stone the woman, the Pharisees would have
seen to it that he was arrested for breaking Roman law. If, on
the other hand, Jesus had said, "Well, Moses said to stone her
but we have to obey Roman law," the Pharisees would have accused
him of placing Roman law above God’s justice and discredited him
(Remember, they brought the woman to Jesus, not for justice but
so they could find something of which to accuse Jesus.) When Jesus
gave his answer about casting the first stone, all the accusers
left the scene. Jesus then asked the woman, "Where are those thine
accusers? hath no man condemned thee?" According to Mosaic law,
there was to be a trial and witnesses who would testify to a person’s
guilt. If the person were found guilty, the witnesses were to
cast the first stones at the guilty party (Deuteronomy 17:4-7).
When Jesus stood up, there was no one there to be a witness and
no one to fulfill the Mosaic law by casting the first stone. So
Jesus said to the woman, "Go, and sin no more."
By calling the woman’s
adultery "sin", Jesus clearly stated what adultery is - a sin.
Furthermore, Jesus told the woman not to commit adultery again.
It is thus clear that
adultery was a sin in the Christ Administration. Christ quoted
the seventh commandment, "Thou shalt not commit adultery" in his
teaching from a mountain in Galilee. He quoted it again to the
rich young ruler who asked him what to do to receive eternal life.
He called the adultery of the woman mentioned in John, chapter
8 a "sin" and he gave illicit sexual relations as the only valid
reason for divorce. In contrast to these records, there is not
a scripture in the gospels that indicates that adultery was not
a sin or that it was to be taken lightly.
This paper has dealt with
adultery in the Patriarchal, Law and Christ Administrations, and
it has shown that adultery was considered wrong and a sin in all
of them. For adultery to be acceptable to God in the Grace Administration
would be a change, and God would have to say it is acceptable.
In fact, the opposite is the case. In the Grace Administration,
God continues to call adultery a sin.
From Acts to Revelation,
the words "adultery," "adulterer," and "adulteress" are only used
fourteen times in the King James Version: Romans 2:22 (twice);
Romans 7:3 (twice); Romans 13:9; I Corinthians 6:9; Galatians
5:19; Hebrews 13:4; James 2:11 (twice); James 4:4 (twice); II
Peter 2:14; and Revelation 2:22. Only the first seven of these
uses are in the church epistles. Each of the fourteen occurrences
will be examined.
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Romans 2:22
Thou that sayest a man should
not commit adultery, dost thou commit adultery? thou that
abhorrest idols, dost thou commit sacrilege?
The context of Romans 2:22
is Judeans who are "instructed out of the law" (verse
18). Thus the reference to them, saying, "A man should
not commit adultery" comes right out of the ten commandments,
i.e., "Thou shalt not commit adultery." The reference
is simple and straightforward, and refers to the physical
act of adultery. There is no reason to read spiritual
adultery into this verse since the reference is obviously
to the law and since idolatry (which would be spiritual
adultery) is mentioned in the same verse.
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Romans
7:3
So then if, while her
husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall
be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she
is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though
she be married to another man.
The context of Romans 7:3 is
Judean law. This is clear from verse 1 "(for I speak to
them that know the law)." Romans 7:3 is speaking about
laws regarding divorce and remarriage and closely parallels
what Jesus Christ said in Matthew 5:32; Matthew 19:9;
Mark 10:11-12; and Luke 16:18, giving fornication as grounds
for divorce.
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Romans 13:9
For this, Thou shalt not commit
adultery, Thou shalt not kill, Thou shalt not steal, Thou
shalt not bear false witness, Thou shalt not covet; and
if there be any other commandment, it is briefly
comprehended in this saying, namely, Thou shalt love thy
neighbor as thyself.
Romans 13:9 is a very clear
verse of scripture, especially in light of immediate context.
The quotation, "Thou shalt not commit adultery" is from
the ten commandments. It is noteworthy that the specific
commandment was given in the ten commandments in the Law
Administration, then quoted in the Christ Administration,
and is now being quoted in the Grace Administration.
The context of Romans 13:9
is easy to understand. God’s will for the believer is
made clear in verse 8, i.e., "Owe no man any thing, but
to love one another." All the believer needs to do then
is to find out from the scriptures how to love his neighbor
as himself. The answer, at least in part, is in verses
9 and 10. And verse 9 makes it clear that "Thou shalt
love thy neighbor as thyself" includes not committing
adultery, not killing, not stealing, not bearing false
witness, and not coveting. All those "Thou shalt not’s"
are "briefly comprehended," i.e., "summed up," in the
saying, "Thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself." It
is clear from verses 8 and 9 that a person who loves someone
will not steal from them, kill them, bear false witness
about them, covet their belongings, or commit adultery
with them. Furthermore verse 10 points out that "love
is the fulfilling of the law" because it works no ill
to his neighbor. The word "ill" is kakos in the
Greek and is usually translated "evil." Love is the fulfilling
of the law because the person who walks in the love of
God will do what the Old Testament Law tried to do, i.e.,
get people to work no evil to their neighbors. Thus the
person who walks in love will not steal, which is something
the law tried to get people not to do. The person who
walks in love will not commit adultery, which is something
the law tried to get people not to do. Since the Old Testament
law forbade adultery, in fact made it a capital crime,
it cannot be "fulfilling the law" to commit adultery.
So the person who walks in love, and thus fulfills the
Old Testament law, must be a person who does not commit
adultery.
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I
Corinthians 6:9
Know ye not that the unrightous
shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived:
neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor
effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind.
The question that needs to
be answered in this verse is whether or not the adultery
is physical or spiritual. The context of the verse is
both spiritual and physical sins. "Fornicators" will come
up later in the paper. "Idolaters," of course, is definitely
in the spiritual category. "Effeminate" is the word used
for the man who plays the female part in a homosexual
relationship. "Abusers of themselves with mankind" refers
to homosexuals and pederasts. Since many of the other
terms refer to physical, sexual acts, and since idolatry
is plainly listed, the weight of evidence is that "adultery"
in I Corinthians 6:9 refers to the physical act.
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Galatians
5:19
Now the works of the flesh
are manifest, which are these; Adultery, fornication,
uncleanness, lasciviousness.
The word "adultery" has been
erroneously inserted here. It is not in the majority of
the Greek texts, nor in the Syriac Peshitta text.
This ends the usages of "adultery"
in the seven church epistles. The clear scripture is Romans
13:9 which leaves no doubt about God’s position on adultery
- that it is not a loving thing to do, but is doing "evil"
to ones neighbor.
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Hebrews 13:4
Marriage is honourable
in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers
God will judge.
This verse is clear. Although
marriage is honorable and the marriage bed "undefiled,"
i.e., unsoiled, unstained. Adulterers, who are breaking
the marriage covenant, God will judge. Whoremongers, or
fornicators, are covered in Part Two.
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James
2:11
For he that said, "Do not commit
adultery, said also, Do not kill. Now if thou commit no
adultery, yet if thou kill, thou art become a transgressor
of the law.
This is another time the seventh
commandment is quoted in the scriptures. The context clarifies
this verse.
James 2:10-12
For whosoever shall keep the
whole law, and yet offend in one point, he is guilty
of all.
For he that said, "Do not commit
adultery, said also, Do not kill. Now if thou commit no
adultery, yet if thou kill, thou art become a transgressor
of the law.
So speak ye, and so do, as
they that shall be judged by the law of liberty.
The overall point that is being
made in this section of James is that it is not good enough
to keep most of the law. Sin in even one area of a person’s
life is still sin and makes him guilty under the Law.
James 2:12 says, "So speak ye, and so do, as they that
shall be judged by the law of liberty." The believer is
to walk for God and not ignore sin in his life, thinking,
"Well, after all, most of my walk is okay, so a couple
sins won’t hurt." The reason adultery is even mentioned
in James 2:11 is that it was an acknowledged example of
sinful behavior, just as killing was. Adultery would not
have been used in the verse if it was not a sin.
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James 4:4
Ye adulterers and adulteresses,
know ye not that the friendship of the world is enmity
with God? whosoever therefore will be a friend of the
world is the enemy of God.
The words "adulterers and"
should be omitted from this verse. They are not in the
majority of the Greek texts or the Syriac Peshitta text.
The word "adulteresses" has the spiritual meaning here,
i.e., those who turn from God to serve worldly things.
The context of this verse is those who serve worldly things
rather than worshipping God. This is the first time that
the word "adultery" has referred to idolatry or spiritual
adultery.
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II Peter 2:14
Having eyes full of adultery,
and that cannot cease from sin; beguiling unstable souls:
an heart they have exercised with covetous practices;
cursed children
The use of "adultery" in this
verse is a good example of how closely tied physical adultery
and spiritual adultery can be. The phrase "eyes full of
adultery" forcefully reminds one of Christ’s words, "Whosoever
looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery
already..." Thus the phrase carries the imagery of literal
physical adultery. While the context of the verse will
allow that, the context also demands that the ones involved
are spiritual adulterers, i.e., idolaters. They have "forsaken
the right way" and have "gone astray" and are "following
the way of Balaam" (verse 15). Thus, in this verse, there
is no need to separate the spiritual sine from the physical
sin. The men involved are guilty of both.
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Revelation 2:22
Behold, I will cast her into
a bed, and them that commit adultery with her into great
tribulation, except they repent of their deeds.
This verse illustrates the
use of the physical sin to communicate a spiritual truth.
"Adultery" carries the image of the physical act: "cast
her into a bed" and "those that commit adultery with her."
Nevertheless, in the context, the verse seems to be speaking
of judgment for sin, not saying that there actually was
a woman whom God would cast into bed. God uses one sin,
adultery, to communicate truths about another sin, idolatry.
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All fourteen uses of "adultery"
in the New Testament have now been covered. Not one of them indicates,
in any way, that adultery is acceptable to God. Quite the opposite
is the case. Adultery is a sin. Furthermore, the sin of adultery
is used to graphically portray the sin of idolatry.
Adultery has now been
studied in the Patriarchal, Law, Christ, Grace, and Appearing
Administrations. In not one single instance has it been shown
not to be a sin. In stark contrast, there
were many verses showing that adultery was a grave sin.
Adultery, in the Old Testament,
involved a man, either married or unmarried and a woman who was
either betrothed or married. The evidence from the Gospels (Cp.
Matthew 5:32) and from the epistles (Cp. Romans 7:3) indicates
that that definition holds true all the way through the Word of
God. There are no examples of the term "adultery" that involve
a man, married or unmarried, with a single woman. That means that,
up to this point, all this paper has shown is that for a man to
have sexual intercourse with another man’s wife is a sin. This
next phase of the paper will deal with fornication and will show
that in the Grace Administration it is a sin for a man to have
sexual intercourse with any woman unless he is married to her.
Appendix A
Reason:
In the Old Testament
men were allowed to have more than one wife. Surely things are
not stricter in the "Grace Administration" than they were under
the Law. God must allow men to have intercourse with other women
besides their wives, especially single women.
Answer:
Men were allowed to have
more than one wife in the Old Testament (Exodus 21:10 and Deuteronomy
21:15). That is not the case in the Grace Administration
as Corinthians, Timothy, and Titus make clear. Timothy and Titus
are specifically addressed to leaders in the church. According
to I Timothy 3:2 and Titus 1:6, a "bishop" (episkopos),
i.e., one who is a ruling elder, an overseer, in the church, must
be the "husband of one wife." According to I timothy 3:12, the
"deacons" (diakonos), i.e., one who serves in the Body
of Christ, are also to be the "husband of one wife". Thus the
Word of God clearly states that any man who serves in the Body
of Christ must only have one wife. More than that, however, the
Word of God declares that every Christian man should have just
one wife and every Christian woman should have just one husband.
Corinthians, which is
addressed to every believer, addresses the one-husband, one-wife
issue. Corinthians says "Let every man have his own wife and every
woman have her own husband" (I Corinthians 7:2). This verse clearly
sets the monogamous Christian marriage. If the wife is sharing
her husband with other wives, then the husband is not "her own,"
but is shared property. Similarly, a woman is not to have more
than one husband, for then she would not be "his own." Thus although
the Old Testament Law allowed for more than one wife, the New
Testament does not.
Believers in the Grace
Administration are not allowed to have more than one wife, and
they are not allowed to "sleep around" either.
I Corinthians 7:1:
Now concerning the things
whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a
woman.
The essential meaning
of the word "touch" in this context is "touch as if the woman
were your wife." Bauer’s lexicon handles the word "touch" as sexual
intercourse with a woman. In the Grace Administration, the wife
is to meet the sexual needs of the husband and vice-versa.
Even though the Old Testament
Law made provision for a man to have more than one wife, there
were laws governing people’s sexual behavior. Each wife was to
be well taken care of, having food, raiment and sexual companionship.
Deuteronomy 21:10
If he take him another
wife, her food her raiment, and her duty of marriage, shall
he not diminish.
Adultery was forbidden
in the ten commandments and was punishable by death (Exodus 20:14;
Leviticus 20:10).
Deuteronomy 22:22
If a man be found lying
with a woman married to an husband, then they shall both of them
die, both the man that shall lay with the woman, and the
woman: so shalt thou put away evil from Israel.
If a man had sexual intercourse
with a free woman who was betrothed, that was also considered
either adultery or rape. If the act occurred in the city, the
act was considered to be adultery and the man and the woman were
stoned to death. If the act occurred out in the countryside, the
act was considered rape and only the man was killed (Deuteronomy
22:23-27). Thus, whether the betrothed woman was willing or not,
if a man had intercourse with a betrothed free woman, he was killed.
If a man had sexual intercourse with a slave who was betrothed,
there were still consequences, but they were less severe. The
woman was scourged (whipped) and the man fined.
Leviticus 19:20-22
And whosoever lieth carnally
with a woman, that is a bondmaid, betrothed to an husband,
and not at all redeemed, nor freedom given her; she shall be scourged;
they shall not be put to death, because she was not free.
And he shall bring his
trespass offering unto the Lord, unto the door of the tabernacle
of the congregation, even a ram for a trespass offering.
And the priest shall make
an atonement for him with the ram of the trespass offering before
the Lord for his sin which he hath done: and the sin which he
hath done shall be forgiven him.
It is noteworthy that
even though the consequences for adultery with a betrothed slave
girl were less severe, the act itself was called a "sin" twice
in verse 22.
If a man had sexual intercourse
with a single woman, he had to marry her.
Exodus 22:16
And if a man entice a
maid that is not betrothed, and lie with her, he shall surely
endow her to be his wife.
The one exception to this
occurred if the girl’s father absolutely refused to let the man
marry his daughter. In that case, the man was required to pay
a fine equal to the "the dowry of virgins" (Exodus 22:17).
Even if a man found a
single woman and raped her, he had to marry her.
Deuteronomy 22:28 and
29
If a man find a damsel
that is a virgin, which is not betrothed, and lay hold
on her, and lie with her, and they be found;
Then the man that lay
with her shall give unto the damsel’s father fifty shekels
of silver, and she shall be his wife; because he hath humbled
her, he may not put her away (i.e. divorce her) all his days.
These two verses refer
to rape, according to the context. Verses 26 and 27, just prior
to these, refer to rape, and the words "lay hold on her" in verse
28 indicate rape. The New International Version translates Deuteronomy
22:28 and 29 as follows:
"If a man happens to
meet a virgin who is not pledged to be married and rapes her and
they are discovered, he shall pay the girl’s father fifty shekels
of silver. He must marry the girl, for he has violated her. He
can never divorce her as long as he lives.*
One reason the Law of
Moses specified that single girls marry the man who seduced or
raped them was that if a girl was not a virgin on her wedding
night she could be stoned to death.
Deuteronomy 22:10-21
But if this thing (the
woman’s not being a virgin) be true, and the tokens of
virginity be not found for the damsel:
Then they shall bring
out the damsel to the door of her father’s house, and the men
of her city shall stone her with stones that she die: because
she hath wrought folly in Israel, to play the whore in her father’s
house: so shalt thou put evil away from among you.
From the above information
it can be seen that Israel under the Law was not a sexual panacea,
where men had the sexual affections of women freely available
to them. If they had more than one wife, they had to make sure
that each was well taken care of. If he seduced or raped a married
or betrothed woman, he was stoned to death. If he seduced or raped
a single woman, he was forced to marry her.
People have tried to say
that the Old Testament Law does not forbid a man to visit a prostitute
or have intercourse with his slave girls. Although it is true
that in practice men did visit prostitutes and take advantage
of their slave girls, had the Law been properly applied, this
would not have happened. Thus, if the Law was carried out, the
master would have married his slave girl, and the prostitute would
have married her first customer.**
From the above evidence
it can be seen that the men of the Old Testament did not live
in a society where they had vast sexual freedom. Yes, they could
have more than one wife, while we today in the Grace Administration
cannot. Although the reasons why God allowed more than one wife
in the Old Testament but only allows one wife today may not be
clear, one thing is clear: The Word of God does say that
today, in the Grace Administration, marriage is to be monogamous.
Having sexual intercourse with a woman who is not your wife is
a sin.
Appendix B
Reason:
The sin that David
committed and which God was really angry about was the murder
of a faithful believer, not adultery.
Answer:
Murder and adultery are
both specifically mentioned in the ten commandments, and both
were capital crimes, carrying the death penalty. You may say that
David’s adultery was not a sin or not that big a sin, but David
did not feel that way. He knew what he did was wrong and tried
to cover it up. When his initial scheme to cover his sin of adultery
by getting Uriah to have sexual intercourse with Bathsheba did
not work, he finally covered it by committing the sin of murder.
God is no respecter of
persons. To say that it was all right with God for a king to commit
adultery because he was king is to say that God elevates the position
of king above His Word. That is patently false. In God’s sight,
it is a sin to break any commandment. If it was all right with
God for David to break God’s commandment and commit adultery because
he was the king, then it would have been all right for David to
break any other commandment because he was king, including the
commandment "Thou shalt not kill" (Heb. ratsach = "murder").
Then Nathan could not have reproved David at all. In fact, when
Nathan did reprove David, he mentioned both sins: adultery and
murder - each mentioned twice. In II Samuel 12:9, Uriah’s murder
is mentioned twice and David’s adultery once, and then in verse
10, David’s adultery is mentioned a second time. If David’s adultery
was not an issue with God, then why was it brought up at all?
The adultery was a sin in God’s eyes.
There are three kings
mentioned in the Word of God who unknowingly placed themselves
in the position of committing adultery: Pharaoh (Genesis 12),
Abimelech (Genesis 20), and a different Abimelech more than 60
years later (Genesis 26). "Abimelech" was an official title for
the kings of Gerar, just as "Pharaoh" was the official title for
the kings of Egypt.
In Genesis 12 Abraham
went to Egypt because there was a famine in the land of Israel.
He told Pharaoh that Sarah was his sister, and did not let Pharaoh
know that Sarah was also his wife, because he was afraid (Genesis
12:11-13). Pharaoh, thinking Sarah was unmarried, took Sarah to
his house (Genesis 12:15). When Pharaoh found out that Sarah was
Abraham’s wife, he was upset with Abraham (verses 18 and 19),
and he was upset that he might have had intercourse with Sarah
(verse 19). Pharaoh then sent both Abraham and Sarah out of his
kingdom (verses 19 and 20). Pharaoh knew adultery was wrong and
was upset that Abraham had placed him in a position of unknowingly
committing adultery.
Abraham journeyed into
Gerar in Genesis chapter 20. Abraham told Abimelech, the king
of Gerar, the same thing he told Pharaoh - years earlier - that
Sarah was his sister, not mentioning that she was also his wife.
Like Pharaoh, Abimelech took Sarah. God came to Abimelech in a
dream and told him "Behold, thou art but a dead man, for
the woman which thou hast taken; for she is a man’s wife." Abimelech
was the king. If the king was above the law, then Abimelech could
have taken Sarah and had no problem with God or man. The word
of God clearly indicates that it was not all right with God. He
revealed to Abimelech that Sarah was another man’s wife, and it
was not all right to take her. This was true even though
Abimelech was a king and lived before the Mosaic law.
Abimelech was upset when
he found out he had unknowingly taken another man’s wife. He answered
God and said, "Said he (Abraham) not unto me, She is my sister?
and she (Sarah) even she herself said, He is my brother: in the
integrity of my heart and the innocency of my hands have I done
this." Abimelech did not know that Sarah was already married,
and he obviously did not think he had any right to another man’s
wife. Abimelech was very upset with Abraham and confronted him.
Genesis 20:9
Then Abimelech called
Abraham, and said unto him, "What hast thou done unto us? and
what have I offended thee, that thou hast brought on me and on
my kingdom a great sin? Thou hast done deeds unto me that ought
not to be done."
It is noteworthy that
even though Abimelech had never had sexual intercourse with Sarah
(Genesis 20:4), he considered the fact that he had even taken
her into his house (20:2) a "great sin" both "on me" and "on my
kingdom" (20:9).
Abraham was not the only
patriarch to spend time in Gerar. Isaac went to Gerar and, being
afraid for his life, lied to the people, telling them Rebekah
was his sister.
Genesis 26:7
And the men of the place
(Gerar) asked him of his wife; and he said "She is my sister,"
for he feared to say "She was my wife;" "Lest," said he "The
men of this place should kill me for Rebekah;" for she was
fair to look upon.
Isaac’s lie was discovered
by the king when he looked out a window and saw Isaac "sporting
with," i.e., sexually caressing, his wife (Genesis 25:8). Abimelech
called Isaac and reproved him because if one of his people had
had intercourse with Rebekah "Thou should have brought guiltiness
upon us." Thus Abimelech clearly recognized that adultery was
a sin and that it made people guilty. Abimelech then gave a command,
saying, "He that toucheth this man or his wife shall surely be
put to death."
It is obvious from the
fact that David tried so hard to cover his adultery that he considered
it a sin. It is also obvious that other kings thought that adultery
was a sin, both for them and for their people. The evidence is
thus conclusive: adultery was a sin, no matter what "position"
or "title" a person held.*
Appendix C
Reason:
In I kings 17, Elijah
traveled to Syria where he stayed "many days" with a widow
woman. Surely they had a sexual relationship. Yet Elijah was one
of the greatest prophets that ever walked through Israel.
Answer:
There is not one speck
of evidence in the Word of God that Elijah had sexual intercourse
with the widow woman with whom he lived. There was a loft in the
woman’s house where "he" (not "they") lived, and he had "his own
bed." The loft called a "chamber" in I Kings 17:23, was separate
from the house so there was privacy for both him and the woman
and her son (verse 23).
If Elijah did have a sexual
relationship with the widow woman (and I repeat: there is no evidence
for that), then he would have been required to marry her and take
her back to Israel with him as a wife.
Appendix D
Reason:
Jesus Christ and Paul
both traveled with women. They must have provided sexual companionship
as well as taking care of other physical needs.
Answer:
The verses referred to
about Jesus Christ and Paul are in the gospel of Mark and in I
Corinthians.
Mark 15:40-41
There were also women
looking on afar off: among whom was Mary Magdalene, and Mary the
mother of James the less and of Joses, and Salome.
(Who also, when he was
in Galilee, followed him, and ministered unto him;) and many other
women which came up with him unto Jerusalem.
I Corinthians 9:5
Have we not power to lead
about a sister, a wife, as well as other apostles, and as the
brethren of the Lord, and Cephas?
There is absolutely not
one shred of evidence that Jesus Christ ever had sexual intercourse
with a woman. If he had, he would have been required to obey the
Mosaic Law on the subject and marry her (of course, if the woman
were married, then his intercourse would have broken the Law and
Jesus could not have been our redeemer). There is also no evidence
for the Apostle Paul’s ever having intercourse with a woman.
The biblical culture,
both Judean and Greco-Roman, kept woman and men more separated
than our twentieth-century culture does. In many cases, only a
woman would be allowed to get close enough to another woman to
minister to her effectively. Also, the Biblical culture generally
had much stricter norms concerning the separation of labor between
men and women. Women would minister to Jesus, Paul, and others
by doing jobs that would have degraded the men in the eyes of
people to whom they taught God’s Word.
Appendix E
Reason:
The last verses of
Romans 14 clearly indicate that for people who can so believe,
their actions are not sin.
Romans 14:21-23
It is good neither
to eat flesh, nor to drink wine, nor any thing whereby
thy brother stumbleth, or is offended, or is made weak.
Hast thou faith? have
it to thyself before God. Happy is he that condemneth
not himself in that thing which he alloweth.
And he that doubteth is
damned if he eat, because he eateth not of faith: for whatsoever
is not of faith is sin.
If I am not causing my
brother to stumble and I am believing God to stay in fellowship,
my adultery is not sin.
Answer:
The context of the whole
chapter of Romans 14 is food, not sex. Although the principles
in the chapter can be applied to other areas of life, the principles
must be examined carefully so that they are not applied in error.
A major key in Romans 14 regarding food is in verse 20. "For meat
destroy not the work of God. All things are pure; but it
is evil for that man who eateth with offense." "All things
are pure...." All what things are pure? Is this verse saying that
everything in the wide world is pure? Of course not. The context
is food. All food is pure.
If all food is pure, how
could eating food possibly be a sin? It is a sin when it is eaten
in such a way that it causes a brother in Christ to stumble, or
if it is eaten with doubt and not believing. Of course, if the
food is eaten with believing it is not sin.
The point of Romans 14
is that doing something that God says is okay to do can be a sin
if there is doubt and fear involved. Thus, an ex-Judean can eat
pork, which is okay with God to do, but still be sinning in doing
it because he has doubt, fear, and condemnation in his life from
eating it. This principle can be applied outside the food category.
Smoking a cigarette is not a sin. Yet it would be if it were done
with doubt, fear, and condemnation instead of believing.
The premise in Romans
14 that governs verses 21-23 is that "All things (food) indeed
are pure." There is absolutely nothing in Romans 14 about
taking something that God calls impure in His Word and purifying
it by believing. No homosexual can "believe" to make homosexuality
not a sin. God calls it a sin. It is not "pure" in God’s sight,
and man cannot make it pure by believing.
In one sense, the principles
of Romans 14 do apply to the sexual field. My having sexual intercourse
with my wife is pure in God’s sight. Yet I can take that "pure"
act and make it a sin by having sexual intercourse in the aisle
of the local grocery store. Yes, it is possible to make something
that is pure in God’s sight a sin by doing it with doubt and fear,
or by doing it in such a manner that a brother in Christ stumbles.
It is not available to "purify" an act that God says is a sin
by "believing" it is not a sin.
Appendix F
Reason:
We live in the Grace
Administration and are not bound by hard-and-fast laws. I Corinthians
6:12 and 10:23 both say "All things are lawful for me."
Answer:
The born-again believer
has eternal life. He has the seed of Christ, and spiritually,
he cannot sin (I John 3:9). He is heaven bound and all hell cannot
stop him. Yet every believer sins. In fact, if we say we do not
sin, we are liars (I John 1:8-10). Sin is broken fellowship with
God, and the only way we can know whether our behavior is acceptable
to God is by studying God’s Word. We know idolatry is a sin because
the Word of God says so. A born-again believer can worship idols
and still go to heaven. We know that homosexuality is a sin because
the Word of God says so. A homosexual that is a born-again believer
will still go to heaven. Experience is never a guarantee of Truth.
The fact that a believer does not "feel" worse off for his sinful
behavior does not mean he was not sinning. The only guidebook
to what is and what is not sin is the Word of God. If the Word
of God says something is a sin, then that thing is a sin. The
believer must strive to line up his walk with the written Word.
In the case of adultery, the written Word is clear - it is a sin
and thus a behavior to be avoided. You can commit adultery and
still go to heaven just as you can steal, or murder, or worship
idols and still go to heaven. Nevertheless, the only way we can
know God’s will is through His Word. If God has not said what
he meant concerning adultery - and there are many verses that
show adultery is wrong - then how can we ever know what God does
mean? If adultery is not a sin because "all things are lawful
for me," then murder is not a sin either. After all, murder is
only mentioned twice in the Church epistles, while adultery is
mentioned six times.
The phrase "all things
are lawful for me" is not the same thing as "nothing is a sin
for me". The Word of God says we all sin (I John 1:8-10). All
things are lawful because whether you sin or not you are going
to heaven. But if you want to walk in fellowship with God, you
must learn from His Word what things are sins - and His Word is
clear concerning adultery. It is a sin.
Appendix G
Reason:
According to I Corinthians,
chapter 7, the marriage relationship is one of permission, not
law. I am not breaking any of God’s laws by getting my sexual
needs met outside as well as inside my marriage.
Answer:
I Corinthians 7:6 says,
"But I speak this by permission, and not of commandment." This
verse means that what the Apostle Paul was writing was God’s Word,
but he was writing by God’s permission, not because God had commanded
him to write. Just because Paul was writing by permission does
not mean that marriage was any less binding. No one has to get
married. God does not force anyone to get married, but once two
believers make a freewill decision to get married, then they are
bound by what the Word of God says about the marriage relationship.
The Word of God says that once you are married you are not to
commit adultery.
Appendix H
Reason:
Colossians 2:20 and
21 say that people are no longer to be subject to ordinances like
"touch not; taste not; handle not." "Do not commit adultery" is
just another "not" that was done away with when we got born again.
Answer:
Colossians 2:20 and 21
are only part of the context of this section of scripture. When
more of the context is quoted, these verses are clear.
Colossians 2:20-22
Wherefore if ye be dead
with Christ from the rudiments of the world, why, as though living
in the world, are ye subject to ordinances,
(Touch not; taste not;
handle not;
Which all are to perish
with the using;) after the commandments and doctrines of men?
Notice that "Touch not;
taste not; handle not;" is part of an epitrechon. An epitrechon
is a figure of speech. It is a parenthetical addition "rapidly
thrown in as an explanatory remark."* What is the epitrechon
explaining? It is explaining the word "ordinances" which are "after
the commandments and doctrines of men." There are many ordinances,
rules, regulations, and laws that are "after the commandments
and doctrines of men," i.e., man made. However, there are rules
that are "God made."
Colossians is not saying
that believers are not subject to the ordinances of God. What
Colossians is saying is that the believer is not to be subject
to man’s ordinances, man’s commandments, and man’s doctrines.
That we should not commit adultery is a doctrine of God. It is
clearly stated in the Word of God that adultery is a sin. To say
that Colossians 2:20-22 applies to adultery would mean that it
applies to every other doctrine given by God. In that case, God
should not have bothered to tell us in His Word what to do and
what not to do, since we would not be subject to those ordinances
anyway.
Appendix I
Reason:
Whenever the word "adultery"
is used in the Word of God, the term applies to spiritual adultery,
not physical adultery.
Answer:
Some people erroneously
believe that the words "adultery" and "fornication" in the Word
of God do not refer to the physical act of sexual intercourse,
but refer instead to spiritual unfaithfulness to God. It is correct
that the terms "adultery" and "fornication" sometimes do refer
to spiritual unfaithfulness. It is also correct that they do refer
to the actual physical acts of fornication and adultery. In fact,
the terms "fornication" and "adultery" were used of spiritual
unfaithfulness because physical unfaithfulness was so clearly
understood and known to be a sin against God. Spiritual unfaithfulness
is called "adultery" and "fornication" because those words communicate
how grave the sin of idolatry is in the sight of God. Of course,
God does set forth His position on idolatry in literal terms also
(Compare Exodus 20:1-6, the first two of the ten commandments).
Idolatry, like adultery, was a capital crime (cp. Exodus 22:20;
Deuteronomy 13:1-11; Deuteronomy 17:2-5).
Another reason that "adultery"
and "fornication" were used of the spiritual sin, as well as the
physical sin, was that the parallels were so close. A person who
committed adultery broke a covenant (Malachi 2:14). Well, God
had made a covenant with Israel at the base of Mt. Sinai. Israel
had promised to be faithful (Exodus 24:3-8). When Israel broke
the covenant and was unfaithful, God called their action "adultery."
People were aware that physical adultery was a sin and carried
the death penalty. Thus by calling idolatry "adultery" the seriousness
of the sin of idolatry could be effectively communicated. Besides
the parallel of the broken covenant, there are other parallels
between an unfaithful wife and a man who is unfaithful to God.
A person can be "seduced" into an adulterous relationship either
physically or spiritually. On the other hand, a person can enter
into an adulterous relationship (physically or spiritually) with
full awareness and a hardened and lustful heart.
The point is that physical
adultery and fornication were understood by the people and known
to be a sin against God. God took advantage of the close parallels
between the physical and spiritual, and called spiritual unfaithfulness
by the terms "adultery" and "fornication." To say that the words
"adultery" and "fornication" only to the spiritual act of unfaithfulness
to God misses the point and robs the words of their full impact.
Another reason that God
ties together physical adultery and spiritual adultery in His
Word is that they were so associated with pagan worship. Sexual
intercourse was an actual part of many pagan rituals, especially
fertility rituals. There are specific terms in the Old Testament
for men and women who were temple prostitutes. Qedesheh refers
to a woman and Qadesh refers to men who were "set apart"
for sacred prostitution in pagan religion. The Hebrew root word
is qadash, which is translated "be holy," "be sanctified,"
"hallowed," etc. Qedesheh referring to the female temple
prostitute, is translated "harlot(s)" in Genesis 38:21 twice,
in Genesis 38:22 once, Hosea 4:14 once, and as "whore" in Deuteronomy
23:17. Qadesh, referring to the male temple prostitutes,
is translated as "sodomite(s)" in Deuteronomy 23:17; I Kings 14:24;
15:12; 22:46; II Kings 23:7, and as the "unclean" in Job 36:14.*
Israelites were specifically forbidden to be temple prostitutes.
"There shall be no whore (qedesheh = temple prostitute)
of the daughters of Israel, nor a sodomite (qadesh = temple
prostitute) of the sons of Israel (Deuteronomy 23:17). Not only
were there to be no temple prostitutes in Israel, but the wages
of a male or female temple prostitute were not acceptable to be
used as money for a vow. "Thou shall not bring the hire of a whore
(qedesheh = female temple prostitute) or the price of a dog**
into the house of the Lord thy God for any vow" (Deuteronomy 23:18).
These are verses in the
Word of God that clearly show beyond a shadow of a doubt that
the word "adultery" is applied to physical unfaithfulness. Each
of the verses below clearly show adultery between a man and a
woman.
Leviticus 20:10
And the man that committeth
adultery with another man’s wife, even he that committeth
adultery with his neighbor’s wife, the adulterer and the adulteress
shall surely be put to death.
Proverbs 6:32
But whoso committeth
adultery with a woman lacketh understanding: he that doeth
it destroyeth his own soul.
Jeremiah 29:23
Because they have committeth
villany in Israel, and have committed adultery with their neighbors’
wives, and have spoken lying words in my name, which I have not
commanded them; even I know, and am a witness, saith the
Lord.
Ezekiel 16:32
But as a wife that
committeth adultery, which taketh strangers instead of
her husband!
Ezekiel, chapter 18 contains
a verse of scripture showing not only the physical side of adultery,
but also showing that it is "unlawful," and not "just" or "right."
Adultery is indicated by the phrase "defiled his neighbor's wife."
Ezekiel 18:5-6
But if a man be just,
and do that which is lawful and right,
And hath not eaten
upon the mountains, neither hath lifted up his eyes to the idols
of the house of Israel, neither hath defiled his neighbor's wife,
neither hath come near to a menstrous woman,
In the Gospels Jesus Christ
obviously understood the commandment "Thou shalt not commit adultery"
to apply to physical adultery with a woman.
Matthew 5:27-28
Ye have heard that it
was said by them of old time, thou shalt not commit adultery:
But I say unto you, That
whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed
adultery with her already in his heart.
When Christ said, "Whosoever
looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with
her already in his heart," he was not inventing a new sin. He
was simply applying one of the Old Testament commandments. As
well as forbidding the act of adultery, the ten commandments had
forbidden coveting another man’s wife: "Thou shalt not covet thy
neighbor's wife" (Exodus 20:17).
It has been clearly demonstrated
that the word "adultery" can and does refer to the actual physical
act. The examples used were taken from the Law Administration
and the Christ Administration. Examples from the Patriarchal and
Grace Administrations can be found in the thesis section of this
paper. In summary, the reason that the term "adultery" was used
by God to indicate spiritual unfaithfulness was that there were
so many parallels between spiritual and physical unfaithfulness,
and that the seriousness and the wrong of physical unfaithfulness
was so clearly understood.
Appendix J
Reason:
I married a woman with
a very weak sexual drive, and I have a very strong sexual drive.
I am always "horny." I know that God meets needs, and I believe
He meets my needs through other women who are willing to have
intercourse with me.
Answer:
You are correct that God
meets needs, but He does not meet them in ways that flow at cross-purposes
with His Word. There are probably very few marriages where the
sexual drives of both partners are the same. Part of the joy and
privilege of working together as a Christian husband and wife
is to work out differences using the Word of God as a standard.
The reason the needs exist is that you and your wife have not
gone honestly and lovingly to the Word of God. I Corinthians 7:3
and 4 apply to your situation.
I Corinthians 7:3-4
Let the husband render
unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto
the husband.
The wife hath not power
of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband
hath not power of his body, but the wife.
The word "render" in verse
3 is apodidomi, and in the context of I Corinthians 7 it
means "to pay off what is due" (Thayer). It carries a sense of
obligation (Bullinger). The words "due benevolence" are the Greek
words ten opheilen and mean "the debt," or "that which
is due." This phrase is a euphemism for marital duties (Bauer).
The use of the words "render"
and "due benevolence" are clear. The wife is to meet the sexual
needs of her husband, and vice versa. Neither the husband nor
the wife has the right to refuse to meet the sexual needs of the
spouse. They have a "debt" to each other, as verse 4 makes clear:
"The wife hath not power over her own body, but the husband; and
likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but
the wife." There may be times when one partner may not "feel"
like having sexual intercourse. If the husband and wife wait until
they both "feel like it" to have sexual intercourse, God would
not have written I Corinthians 7:3 and 4. Believing men and women
are to love God enough that they work with their minds and bodies
to obey God. Believers work with their minds and bodies in many
other categories and try to "put on the new man" (Colossians
3:10), so there is no reason for believers not to obey God in
the sexual field.
If the husband and wife
will walk in the love of God and genuinely obey the written Word
of God from their hearts, they will find that they can work out
their sexual differences. The richness of the relationship as
a husband and wife standing together on the Word of God will be
one of the greatest blessings of life.
Appendix K
Reason:
My job and responsibility
takes me away from my wife for long periods of time, and I need
to have sexual intercourse regularly. I know that God always meets
the need of His people. Having sexual intercourse with other women
while I am away from my wife meets that need in my life.
Answer:
This "reason" for committing
adultery is not an honest one. A husband disobeys the Word of
God by leaving his wife for a longer period of time than his body
and mind can handle. Thus he made his own need, which would never
have existed at all had he obeyed the Word of God. Then he sinned
by adultery to meet the need he himself made by his disobedience.
Of course, the same could be true of women who leave their husbands.
The Word of God is very
explicit about husbands and wives staying together.
I Corinthians 7:5
Defraud ye not one the
other, except it be with consent for a time, That ye may
give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again,
That Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.
The word "defraud" is
unclear because it is King James English. A better translation
would be "deprive." God’s Word says the husband and wife are not
to deprive each other sexually except: 1) it be with mutual consent,
2) it be for a specific time and, 3) that it be for the couple
to give themselves to fasting and prayer. The reason the couple
is not to deprive each other is that "Satan tempt you not for
your incontinency."
If a husband is going
to leave his wife at all, there is to be mutual consent about
the separation. He probably has not agreed with his wife to have
other women have sexual intercourse with him while he is away.
Even if she did agree to it, that would not make adultery all
right with God. God specifically says that the time a husband
and wife are to be apart is to be limited, so that Satan cannot
tempt them because of their "incontinency," i.e., lack of self
control. If a husband and wife are allowing themselves to be away
from each other for a longer period of time than either of them
can sexually handle, they are already off the Word. In those times
their "need" is to get back together, not to commit adultery.
Appendix L
Reason:
Flesh is flesh and
spirit is spirit. When you look at sex objectively, the penis
and vagina are simply flesh of the human body. In that respect
there is no difference between a man and woman holding hands and
a man and woman having sexual intercourse.
Answer:
Human logic is only "logical"
if it lines up with the written Word of God. The Word of God does
not forbid holding hands but does forbid adultery. If the fact
that the human body is only flesh made adultery okay, why wouldn’t
homosexuality be okay? Two men may shake hands, or even hug each
other. Yet there is a big difference between that and a homosexual
experience. The Word of God openly condemns the homosexual/lesbian
lifestyle. But psychologists today say that homosexual/lesbian
relations are simply an "alternative lifestyle," citing for "logical
proof" that they are mature adults, have good jobs, make significant
contributions in the field of art, education, etc., and have no
discernible psychological abnormalities or deficiencies. The student
of the Bible knows that homosexuality is a sin because the Word
of God says it is a sin. What the psychologists say, or how the
homosexuals feel makes no difference to God. The Word of God is
the truth on the subject.
The flesh of two homosexuals
or two lesbians is no different than the flesh of two people who
commit adultery, because flesh is flesh. What is done in the flesh
is a sin if and when God says it is a sin. Holding hands or kissing
did not carry a death penalty in the Old Testament Law. Homosexuality
and adultery did carry a death penalty. Surely the testimony of
the Word of God is that there is a vast difference between holding
hands and committing adultery.
Appendix M
Reason:
Adultery is so commonly
practiced it has actually become part of the culture. There are
cases where the Word of God flexes with the culture. A good example
is in I Corinthians 11:5 and 6 where it says that every woman
ought to either wear a hat or shave her head when she prays. Yet
we do not enforce that today because we accept the cultural norm
that women do not wear hats. Wouldn’t adultery fall in the same
category as a rule that can bend with the culture?
Answer:
One reason that apparel
and dress codes come up so often in the New Testament is due to
the many cultures that were coming in contact with one another.
Corinth was a case in point. Corinth was one of the most cosmopolitan
cities of the Roman world. It controlled much of the sea trade
going east and west and controlled land trade going north and
south between mainland Greece and the Peloponnese. The city was
populated with people from all over the Mediterranean world and
parts of Africa and Asia. The advice in I Corinthians, chapter
11 pertaining to dress was to help bring some unity to the fellowship.
I call it advice because of verse 16, "But if any man seem to
be contentious, we have no such custom, neither the churches of
God." In other words, if somebody wants to fight and argue, they
can wear what they want.
Thus the reason the dress
code in the New Testament bends with the culture is because God
specifically stated that it would bend. This is not true of murder,
stealing, adultery, etc. The believer is not to steal because
everyone else is stealing, lie because everyone else is lying,
or commit adultery because everyone else is committing adultery.
The believer is not to be conformed to the world (Romans 12:2).
The believer is not to walk "as other Gentiles walk, in the vanity
of their mind, having their understanding darkened" (Ephesians
4:17-18). The believer is to put off the old man and his behavior,
and put away lying and other sins (Ephesians 4:22-31). Believers
are to be the ones who have "obeyed from the heart that form of
doctrine which was delivered you" (Romans 6:17). If the believer
wants to obey God in the field of adultery, his action is simple:
do not do it.
Appendix N
Reason:
I am completely wrapped
up in adultery. Between the various women who pressure me or expect
me to spend time with them, the friends that I hang out with who
are into adultery, and the lies that I have told to my wife, children
and others, I cannot stop now. My marriage and my public life
would be destroyed.
Answer:
This situation is the
result of unchecked sin. Adultery is a sin and part of the "snare
of the devil" (II Timothy 2:26) and can have very serious consequences.
Proverbs 5:3-4
For the lips of a strange
woman drop as an honeycomb, and her mouth is smoother
than oil:
But her end is bitter
as wormwood, sharp as a two-edged sword.
Proverbs 6:32-33
But whoso committeth
adultery with a woman lacketh understanding: he that doeth it
destroyeth his own soul.
A wound and dishonour
shall he get; and his reproach shall not be wiped away.
This problem developed
because of disobedience to God’s Word, and the answers and deliverance
will come from God. Although it may seem impossible to get out
of the situation, it is possible with God. Believers should not
want to continue in sin. Besides the broken fellowship and loss
of eternal rewards, the situation on earth will only get worse.
Since each individual case is different, there are no "pat answers"
for deliverance from the snare of the Devil. Seeking the aid of
a person or persons capable of helping through God’s Word, believing,
prayer, and wise counsel may be necessary. Always remember that
with men things may seem impossible, but with God all things are
possible.
Background of the paper:
My story (short version):
In the spring of 1986 a girl came to me and said she had had sexual
intercourse with Dr. Wierwille. I had no reason to doubt her as
we were friends and she "had her head on her shoulders" in life.
I started asking around to girls I knew always got to ride on
the motor coach, fly on Ambassador 1, get "back room" duty instead
of housekeeping or grounds, etc. Lo and behold, I talked to many
women that were very candid about their sexual relations with
leadership.
Perhaps the most disturbing thing about those months was the developing
picture was that this was not just practical sin based on lust
but rather was sin based on wrong doctrine--many of the people
involved thought it was okay with God. In fact, all of the "reasons"
that I wrote about in my appendix came out of the mouths of women
I talked to. I would ask them why they thought it was okay or
why they were told it was okay and those were the reasons I got,
so that is why I answered those specific questions.
In the midst of interviewing the women I suspected might have
had sexual relations with leadership, I had three different women
tell me I would be killed if I tried to stop it. The first time
I thought it was a totally stupid thing, but by the third one
I really stopped and thought about it. David had Uriah killed
for the same reason. To protect my work I sent it to about 7 people
I knew and trusted (I do not remember the exact number or all
the people now) sealed in an envelope inside an envelope with
instructions to "go public" if I ended up dead. I told them that
the paper was going to be sent up proper channels, and not to
share the work with others. As you know, The Way had strict guidelines
for handling research, and at that time I had been in the Research
Dept. for six years, loved my job and believed in the system even
though I was beginning to have doubts about the integrity of the
leadership. I handed the paper in to Walter Cummins in late September.
It just sat on his desk. One of the people I had given a copy
to had been hurt by the sex stuff and really wanted it to "make
an impact." She went to Ralph, who, of course, knew nothing of
the paper (like I said, I had not gone public). Ralph talked with
somebody (who?) and the next thing I knew there were all kinds
of meetings about the paper and all kinds of untrue things being
said about me.
On October 23d I was "released" from The Way by order of Chris
Geer. It was a Friday. I had a lot of friends at HQ still. On
Monday at noon Walter got up in front of the staff and told some
made-up lie about me violating department procedures and thus
being let go. A friend snuck out of lunch and called me to let
me know what was said (I did not ask for that but he did it anyway).
I got right on the phone with Walter and told him what he did
was wrong and that he should not lie about a brother to all those
other Christians. I asked to meet with him face to face but he
refused. After that there was a huge witch-hunt and more lies
were told about me than you can possibly imagine. Even really
weird stuff like I believed in the Trinity and the dead being
alive.
Because I still had friends around the country, I got some requests
for my paper. Since I was no longer on staff, and since my "belief
in the system" had really taken a blow, I mailed it to anyone
who asked. By that time the Trustees and Corps Coordinators were
starting a rumor that the paper personally attacked Dr. Wierwille
and taught all kinds of false doctrine. Corps going home for "ho-ho
relo" were told if they read my paper not to come back in residence.
It was also stated that the paper had devil spirits and anyone
who read it became possessed. Well, that all backfired because
as people read it they could tell that what was said about it
was lies. And so there was an escalation of people challenging
the leadership and leaving The Way.
In time I hooked up with Ralph Dubofsky, Tom Reheard, John Lynn,
Mark Graeser, Robert Belt, and some others and CES was born. It
took awhile for the smoke to clear, but when it did all that was
left of us was John Lynn, Mark Graeser and myself, and we have
been together ever since. The Lord has been leading us, and now
I think we are turning out some really first-class stuff.
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